Wednesday, February 10, 2010

How to Convince People Effectively

The ability make others believe what you believe is important for success in many fields. There is often a fine line between convincing somebody your views are valid and annoying them. In this article we’ll look at some of the techniques you can use if you want to convince another individual to believe what you believe.


  • Do the homework. Make sure you understand your own viewpoint. If you are going to try to convince somebody that the Komtar Penang is taller than the Petronas Twin Tower, find out the facts first, don’t make assumptions.

  • Learn the field. For certain areas you will need to know more than just the facts, as some subjects are subjective. For example, if you wanted to convince somebody that the Statue of Liberty was prettier than the Eiffel Tower you will need to know enough about architecture and aesthetics to argue about that subject, as well as the facts, like how tall they are. If you are selling something, like a car, you will need to know all there is to know about the car you are selling. Likewise, you will need to know all about the other cars that are in competition with your vehicle.

  • Engage the person politely. Maintain eye contact where possible, but don’t be annoying about it.

  • Establish mutual respect. You will never convince anybody of anything if they believe you do not respect them, so show the person you respect them and be good enough to gain their respect.

  • Gain trust. To convince people of most things you will need their trust. They don’t have to trust you as a person, but they do need to trust that what you are saying makes sense, that you know your “stuff”. The best way to do this is to do your homework and fieldwork, that way you know a lot about the subject.

  • Listen carefully to what your debate partner has to say. Respond thoughtfully to their point of view.

  • When you can, back up what you say with real facts. Lying will only convince somebody until they find out about the lie, then you will never be able to convince them of anything again.

  • Be willing to be convinced. Sometimes accepting one point from the other person and showing that you can change your mind when you are wrong will help them to be the same, and change their mind about the subject you care about.

  • Practice active listening. Active listening helps you control a conversation and keeps it on track. Active listening techniques include:
    • Non-verbal feedback. Nodding your head as the other talks etc.
    • Paraphrase what the other person has said to make sure you understand it.

  • Make sure you understand the other person’s objections and respond to them in an intelligent manner.

  • Keep vigilant about your belief, but always respectful of the beliefs of others. Explain why your belief is important to you.

  • Understand the other person’s motivations. If you know what another person wants, you are more likely to be able to give it to them.

  • Rephrase your beliefs in a way that the other person is better able to understand.

  • Follow up. Ask questions to make sure the other person understands their new views completely.


  • To hold the eye of a crowd select individuals in the crowd and hold their eyes on-and-off through your presentation.

  • Never lose your cool. Nothing lacks conviction more than a raving idiot.

  • Always be friendly and respectful even if the other person does not change their mind.

  • Beliefs fade. You may think you have changed somebodies mind but find that in a day or two, perhaps a week, they are right back to where they were before.

  • Buy and read some books on sales techniques.

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Paypal : Withdraw your money to Malaysian local banks.

Good news for Malaysian registered paypal users. from now on, you can withdraw your paypal money into malaysian local banks or to your cards. On top of that, you also can also pay and receive payment in Malaysia Ringgit (RM).

To add bank accounts, follow the steps below :

MEPS routing code :

Transaction Fee :

Make sure your bank account number is valid. for any failed transaction, paypal will charge you RM15..

selamat mencuba!

Sunday, January 03, 2010

TM Streamyx Super Upgrade Deals

i went to TM point just now to upgrade my streamyx connection under new Super Upgrade Deals. Promotion expires by 31st January 2010.

This promotion comes with 24 months contract.

For upgrading to 1Mbps, no modem provided. Free modem is available for upgrading to 2 or 4 Mbps only.

Packages Offered :


Existing Package : 384kbps

Upgrade to : 512kbps 1Mpbs 2Mpbs 4Mpbs

1st 4 months : RM60 RM90 RM110 RM140
5th months onwards : RM65 RM95 RM120 RM150

Existing Package : 512kbps

Upgrade to : 1Mbps 2Mpbs 4Mbps

1st 4 months : RM90 RM110 RM140
5th months onwards : RM95 RM120 RM150

Existing Package : 1Mbps

Upgrade to : 2Mpbs 4Mbps

1st 4 months : RM110 RM140
5th months onwards : RM120 RM150

Existing Package : 2Mbps

Upgrade to : 4Mbps

1st 4 months : RM140
5th months onwards : RM150

Simple analysis :

users upgrading from 384kpbs to 512 or 1Mpbs enjoys great saving in terms of monthly bill. Similar case for 512kbps users.

Example: existing 512kbps users need to pay RM90 per month for combo package. in Super Deal package, they just need to pay additional RM5 per month to enjoy 1Mpbs speed + Free for the first 4 months. (existing 1Mbps plan = RM110 per month). users could save Rm15 per month! (110 - 95 = RM15 + free 4 months).

For streamyx standard package ( phone bill and internet bill are separated), ask TM. Go to your nearest TM points for details.

i'm waiting for my upgrade plan approved..yeah! :)